Rogers Family & Self-Centered Psychotherapies
"Where it's all about You, Your self & Why. From your point of you." TM
TIMOTHY ROGERS, MA, LMFT
Licensed Psychotherapist mfc101500
BEING, MY SELF & WHY
A California State Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist (MFC101500), I hold a Master's Degree in Counseling Psychology, and am in pursuit of my PhD in Clinical Psychology with an emphasis in Depth Psychology. I consider myself a recovering unhealthy accommodator or what's more commonly known as a People Pleaser. My process, like yours is a work in progress. Not perfect, but no longer unconscious... In both my personal (50 years on this planet) and my professional (solid 10 years as a Psychotherapist) life, I have found that the one aspect which dictates, influences even defines a life worth living? Are the relationships we choose to be in. Personal, romantic, career, it matters not who we know, but who knows us. The REAL us.
WHAT IS SUCCESS?
"Loneliness does not come from having no people about one,
but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important to oneself,
or from holding certain views which others find inadmissible.”
Success is liking your Self, liking what you do, and liking how you do it). then I have to practice what I preach in my private practice:." eing mySelf and not a clinical cardboard cut out has enabled me to work with amazing people who have unearthed themSelves and gained true appreciation of that Self with authentic and organic consistently.
Just as not every therapist is a good fit for every client, there are particular aspects of a client's personality that I've found work best with me. I conceptualize that the bottom line to why anyone participates in psychotherapy is as a function for the discovery of Self-identity. Yes, it may be a crisis (infidelity, school issues, loss of a relationship) that brings you in. However, those with whom I've been privileged enough to work, deciding to look at your Self and therefore choosing a life worthy of examining (with more curiosity than criticism), is a much deeper, powerful, moving and significant part of the overall equation of a purposeful life.
WHO ARE YOU, REALLY?
“Your visions will become clear only when you can look into your own heart.
Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.”
Therapy can and I subscribe to it being about asking your Self: "Who am I, REALLY? Then determining what meaning purpose YOU have and what you will do with this gift called life? How? It is through relationship. We need people who are going to reopen our wounds. That’s the only way we heal them. We can’t heal by avoiding. We heal by going through, not 'getting over it.' but by reopening, by learning, by feeling the pain and transforming it with the people who will stand by us as we do. Because if we don't transform our suffering, we will transmit it.
IT’S FINALLY ALL ABOUT YOU
“The greatest tragedy of the family is the unlived lives of the parents.”
You don’t have to be hopeful about the future. It’s enough just to be curious about what is coming. The relationship I hope to establish with you is one in which we both gain insight into how you work best. It's a relationship that is professional and intimate. Authentic and empathic. Respectful of boundaries while prioritizing the need for a safe space where you can feel safe enough to really be your Self. To be able to say anything that comes to mind, and feel as though no subject is too taboo or off limits including any feelings about me that come up for you. Psychotherapy is not a procedure performed upon one person by another. It is a dialogue between personal universes, and it transforms both. (George Atwood)